If you’re reading this, there’s a 87.6% chance you’ve taught English in Japan at some point. You want your students to like you, but not REALLY like you. Japanese culture is couched in shyness and indirect communication, so here are a few indicators that your private might be trying to bust a move on you.
1) He constantly tries to communicate outside of your lessons. I’m not talking about a super diligent student that has a grammar question every so often. I’m talking about the weekly deluge of email asking about your personal life. How do you like Japan so far? Isn’t it hot out? Would it be okay if I saw you naked soon please? Thank you!
2) He constantly mixes his personal life into the lesson. This guy wants you to know how awesome he is, and more importantly, how perfect for you he is. His assignment was to use the words “sublime” and “coliseum” in a sentence and he gave you:
I will make a sublime husband due to the coliseum of cash I have at home.
3) He constantly gives you compliments. As a rule, the teacher-student relationship usually doesn’t include compliments beyond “you’re a good teacher,” so when your private student emails you after the lesson to tell you how beautiful your bag/skirt/innermost soul is, it might be a red flag.
4) He constantly tries to extend the lesson. Often privates can become friends, and often privates want to work hard. But if your private suddenly becomes very diligent, and requests a four-hour lesson, 100 kilometers away at a romantic ryokan for couples… it might be time to move on.
5) He constantly tries to find out if you’re single. Because the direct question is too obvious, he finds ways to try to get you to reveal any significant other in your life during the lesson. During a conversation lesson in past perfect, he asks, “Had you and your extremely unworthy boyfriend been to Odaiba before?” When you answer with a vague, “no,” he immediately offers to take you.